How to Feel Loved
You can be loved—and still not feel loved. Many people believe that if they behave the right way, say the right things, or make themselves more lovable, they will feel more loved. In this book, Sonja Lyubomirsky and renowned relationship scientist Harry Reis present a radical, hopeful, and science-backed shift in how to think about love, revealing that feeling loved isn’t about making yourself more appealing, available, and lovable—it’s about showing your full and vulnerable self to others and encouraging your loved ones (friends, family, romantic partners) to reveal their full and vulnerable selves to you.
In How to Feel Loved, Lyubomirsky and Reis introduce five powerful mindsets: Sharing mindset, Listening-to-Learn mindset, Radical Curiosity mindset, Open-Heart mindset, and Multiplicity mindset. This book shows you how to embrace these mindsets to remake your conversations in ways that enable you and the other person to feel more loved.
The Myths of Happiness
Lyubomirsky argues that we have been given false promises—myths that assure us that lifelong happiness will be attained once we hit the culturally confirmed markers of adult success. This restricted view of happiness works to discourage us from recognizing the upside of any negative life turn and blocks us from recognizing our own growth potential. Our outsized expectations transform natural rites of passage into emotional land mines and steer us to make toxic decisions, as The Myths of Happiness reveals.
